Firstly, what exactly is an “upper limit”?
In an nutshell, an “upper limit” is a wall of limitation within the psyche that states that we cannot go any further in our expansion of awareness than a certain parameter we have set out for ourselves. This also means that we cannot then manifest this newly expanded awareness in physical life (according to our own self-made limitations). We often have “upper limits” based on social or childhood conditioning around subjects such as love, money, success, sense of personal beauty, and so many others areas that it’s impossible to list them all. We can have upper limits around basically anything… they dictate that beyond a certain level is “too much love”, “too much abundance”, “too much joy”, “too much” anything you can imagine, and so forth. The purpose they have served is to keep us “safe” in our eyes until such a time as we could establish ourselves beyond needing approval of the tribe for survival.
Who sets these limits? Some of them have been imposed on us through the projections of others which we have then taken on as our own, some we have put in place ourselves having made erroneous conclusions about ourselves and the world based on certain life experiences. Yet ultimately, wherever they have come from, it’s our sole responsibility to dismantle them if we wish to experience a truly limitless and boundless life. Engaging in this process is one of the most powerful things we can do to set ourselves free from outmoded paradigms.
Many of us are walking around in a maze of unconscious upper limits that we have placed on ourselves, completely unaware that this is the case, yet oftentimes wondering why new and desired experiences don’t spontaneously come our way. Unless we’re actually deliberately pushing the boundaries of what we can experience in life, these upper limits may never get triggered, and so we may not know about them. Nevertheless, most of us will probably recognise one time or another where we’ve bumped into this phenomenon unexpectedly.
The psyche has an incredible way of protecting itself from what it deems to be potentially “shocking” experiences, yet sometimes this works against us in that what the psyche deems “shocking” may simply be what is currently unknown to us, yet perfectly within the realm of life-enhancing experience. So long as we don’t push the boundaries of limitation within the psyche itself, these self-made limits will stay in place, and we might never know what joyful unfolding lies beyond these boundaries we have erected as fences that may well be containing us in an unhelpful way.
Our upper limits have often been built “brick by brick”, with one limiting belief building on top of another to form a thick wall of perceived limitation (known as a belief system). Hence the term “dismantling” – we will need to take those bricks down either one by one, or in some cases with a bulldozer.
In psychological jargon, there is a phenomenon that is commonly referred to as “triggering”, which is where the psyche is “triggered” into a state of reactivity by some kind of stimuli that creates an associative link in the mind (such as reminding us of a painful memory). Psychological triggers are often only looked at in their “negative” form, but “positive” psychological triggers play a huge part where deconstructing our upper limits are concerned. Ultimately, triggering always results in a negative emotional response, but triggers can present themselves in a variety of different ways.
One of the most subtle ways “positive” triggering can catch us out is through a delayed self-sabotage reaction – delayed in that the reaction is not immediate but may take up to a day or more to kick in, making it incredibly difficult to spot. The antidote to it being difficult to spot is ultimately in being fully home for ourselves in the moment, but we’ll come to that in a minute.
A positive psychological trigger might go like this: somebody stirs in us a greater sense of being loved and accepted than we have ever experienced before, it might be through intense positive appraisal of some kind, or by otherwise evoking in us positive feelings beyond anything we’re used to feeling. Then suddenly (this is the part that can happen either immediately or later that day, or even the next day) we find ourselves “triggered” into a negative emotional downward spiral that can be extremely subtle. It may not been an emotional outburst as such, but it could simply be a bad mood or the inclination to engage in things that we know don’t make us feel good, or even more subtly, denial of the positive feeling possibilities that were previously evoked in us (emotional shutting down).
This doesn’t seem to make sense any sense, but there’s a perfectly good explanation behind it. What has happened in this instance is that for whatever reason (this varies from individual to individual based on past experience), we have reached the threshold of what we have previously believed to be possible for ourselves and bumped into a wall of reason¹; the sole purpose of which is to defend our internal “status quo”.
Because we have a belief system about such and such (for example that we are not lovable, can’t be accepted so fully, can’t move beyond a certain income ceiling, etc) we don’t believe we can exist in the previously unexplored state that has been evoked in us and the mind reacts by throwing us backwards into the “lesser” place that it deems acceptable and familiar. This is because we have come to identify with our belief about a certain limit – common ones are how financially abundant we can be, how successful we can be and how much joy we can feel on an ongoing basis without experiencing a crash or a backlash of some kind. The mind reacts in this way because the limiting belief is first present on some level of the psyche. There is an interaction between the psyche and the levels of mind that is undeniable (more on this at a later stage).
Incidentally, the fear of backlash is related to the age-old law of compensation, which is present so long as we try to manifest from outside the unified field of the Inner Family² expressing in Integrated Oneness (with masculine and feminine aspects of Being dancing in co-operative union). In integrated Oneness there are no opposites, and thus no poles for resources to bounce between – hence the previous inevitability of the law of compensation catching up with us is not something we need fear. But because we have formed an identity around limitation based on past dreams, the mind will do anything to protect that identity until it is challenged, including going so far as to cause us to shut down at the experience of something wonderful. Wherever there is past lodged at any of the dimensions of the psyche, there there is ego identity also.
If for example we have an upper limit with regards to how much love we can receive, when somebody or something happens to press on that limit, it has the effect of triggering the psyche into fight/flight mode, but not because it reminds us of something unpleasant. Rather, because it alerts us to that we have never before entered into the territory that is just beyond the threshold that is being pressed upon… it is completely new ground for which no pre-existing neural pathways exist. As such, the triggering effect is due to fear of rushing head first into un-mapped territory (as far as the small mind is concerned) unprepared and without warning!
Herein lies the secret to actually dismantling these upper limits from the ground up. It’s not necessary to have a deeper understanding of the cosmic side of things at this point, there are simple techniques that can be used to shift things powerfully until such a time as the larger pieces eventually click into place. The trick is to pre-prepare the psyche, bit by bit, by envisioning what it might be like, theoretically, to cross that threshold and feel the reality that is beyond it as your “new normal”. This gets the psyche acclimatised to such a possibility before the fact of it actually happening for real. On a physiological level, it also begins the process of creating new neural pathways where none have previously existed, which at the level of the brain begins to “map out” the possibility of new experience in a very tangible way, making it less and less daunting.
These “new possibilities” that we may wish to envision can be whatever we are uniquely inspired to experience in life – deeper love relationships, greater monetary independence, career success, or inspiring accomplishments of any kind. In this way, through having previously mapped them out, if or when we do get triggered at that threshold again, it doesn’t cause a shock reaction – instead, we’ve bought ourselves a moment in which to choose “am I ready to cross or not?”
That decision in the moment will always be at our discretion, and if it’s a no, then that is fine too.
The great Mystic and Seer Almine explains that, when faced with the unknown, in order to avoid having his energy drained by surprise, the Master acts as if he knows (all the while remembering that he doesn’t). This buys him a moment in which to collect himself. Similarly, we can act in this way in the face of great unknowns in our life that have the potential to trigger fear in us. By momentarily imagining that we do know, it’s possible to neutralise any fear response – and by further “imagining ahead” in our own time, we can effortlessly navigate those areas that we know for sure are our “weak points”.
A surface level solution, and a deeper solution – a little look at the metaphysics
The above solution works well so long as we are dealing with issues that are at the relatively shallow levels of the psyche, as the psyche goes. Let me explain…
From a certain perspective, issues at the level of the Inner Child will seem extremely deep, yet there is a whole deeper layer of the psyche that has been almost completely untouched in the cosmos until very recently. It is the horizontal feminine axis, the literal inner space of the cosmos, the threshold to which has only become accessible at all in the last few years. Hence we can be sure that we definitely haven’t explored this area yet, and neither has even leading-edge psychology.
There are two axes of cosmic existence, a vertical and a horizontal – the vertical is our physical reality and the horizontal is the soul realm, masculine and feminine respectively (not the same as masculine and feminine energy – this is a matter of realities). Briefly, the vertical is our outer space and the horizontal is our inner. Inner space is an entirely different phenomenon to our “inner life” – for the most part, when the inner life is spoken about, it’s the inner of the outer (so the deeper layer of the outer) that is being referred to. Confused yet? Don’t worry, this is deep metaphysics…
The feminine horizontal axis is home to four pieces of the psyche whose depth is beyond anything that we have previously encountered or worked with, with the deepest of all being the Inner Babe – roots of the Inner Child level within the inner space of the Infinite. Issues pertaining to this level will not be able to be dealt with fully using the above technique, but will require a deeper understanding of the technicalities surrounding liberating this depth to the full capacity of its expression. Here we are looking at liberating the deepest aspects of Self from age-old dreams of illusion in separation. Also at home on the horizontal axis is the High Mind inner family piece, whose impeccable governance ultimately replaces that of the small mind entirely. Its presence doesn’t come online, however, until various other pieces are in place.
My dear colleague Anita Lucia has recently discovered that the thyroid meridian is the tyrant responsible for stealing energy reserves from the rest of the body, when it functions solely as an ordinary meridian. The thyroid meridian is a special meridian in that unlike the others, it is not organ-related but rather a functional energy system that regulates the activities of the other organs. According to Ancient Chinese texts which have been long lost from mainstream view, the thyroid has important functions as ‘ambassador’ of Original qi. Donna Eden has observed that it is one of two ordinary meridians which has the capacity to act as an extraordinary meridian. This opens up a whole new level of experience in which fight/flight hormones are not produced at all. This is a whole other area of exploration, too extensive to go into within the confines of this blog.
For those who wish to take a deep dive into exploring the deeper dimensions of the psyche and how to work with them, including in how to establish the deep sanctuary of being Home for Oneself as mentioned above, you may wish to join Anita and I on our new collaborative journey through Adventures in Boundlessness. Stay tuned for further information on how to be home for yourself right here on this blog, and subscribe to receive updates if you wish via the blog subscription form on the sidebar to your right.
¹ The wall of reason is what is present when the High Mind sub-personality (or Inner Family piece) is lived as a mirror or inversion of its true capacity, where instead of upholding the highest potential for the entire Inner Family, it presents a barrier of illusion through which none of the inner family pieces can progress.
² To learn more about the Inner Family and what a vital role it plays in manifestation of a reality beyond the law of compensation, consider joining our monthly exploration program at Adventures in Boundlessness.
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