Good morning Beautiful Ones!
To continue on our renewed exploration of the Inner Family… as I’ve been completing over the last week how to continue on the theme of the Inner Nurturer, every which way I’ve looked at it has felt very flat. This morning it finally landed with me why, and how to approach instead.
The times that we are in are such that even though this is new (or relatively new) information for some of you, there is an opportunity to go straight for an activation across both axes of masculine/feminine, body/soul, vertical/horizontal – an exponentially more “3D” experience (especially when we add in the additional Inner Family pieces of the axis of “through). I believe that it may be possible for all to reach this due to the accelerated process of this time, rather than taking the slower route, so we might as well aim for it 🙂
We therefore should be exploring not just the primary four Inner Family pieces together, but the pairings across the axes, which go like this:
There are four Inner Family pieces (sub-personalities) pertaining to the vertical axis of form/physicality/, corresponding to the body level of life, and the masculine – Inner Child, Inner Sage, Inner Nurturer, Inner Warrior
Four pertaining to the horizontal axis of formlessness, corresponding to the soul level of life, and the feminine – Inner Babe, High Mind, Wild Woman, Inner Adventurer
And four pertaining to the back to front axis of “through” (neutral) – The Disruptor, the Administrator, the Shaman, the Survivor
The pairings of the Inner Family pieces across the vertical/horizontal (masc/fem, body/soul) axes are:
Inner Child – Inner BabeInner Sage – High MindInner Nurturer – Wild WomanInner Warrior – Inner Adventurer
So the Inner Nurturer when body/soul levels are combined is paired with the mighty Wild Woman. Let’s take a look at that pairing today 🙂
Almost all women on this planet, at least in the “developed” world, have at some point made the decision based on misperception that the Wild Woman aspect of the psyche is deeply flawed, and banished her to the further recesses of the inner terrain, so thoroughly buried that finding her again feels like mission impossible.
We may no longer know her voice by name, and yet from deep inside, she howls the agonising cry of her yearning for freedom and reconciliation with the rest of our lives. We will never be whole without her, and she will haunt our footsteps forever until we bring her home. She will not rest until she has been resurrected to her rightful place as Queen of our soul’s domain, and waits in ever-hopeful but sometimes desperate longing for her moment of return to us.
Symptoms of the banished Wild Woman include: depression, feeling like something is permanently “missing”, like something was lost along the way and has never been found again, something was given away, lack of vitality, life force and passion for living, constant returning over and over to some even or point in time within the past that seems to torture us, like it’s calling to reclaim something left behind, feeling like half of ourselves. All symptoms very similar to general soul loss, for the Wild Woman is a crucial part of the soul component of beingness, without whom we will never be free to live the life of wildest, most unrestrained dreams.
Yet for all the pain that has been felt in her absence, it was purely a decision that caused her to be so lost from us, and a decision can be undecided just as easily as it was made the moment it is recognised.
The decision came from the false conclusion we made at some point in our lives or in a distant past, when we saw the reaction of the mirrored world to this force that lies beyond its control, and assumed it must be us who is at fault. We decided to bury her. What a wonder that a simple decision would cause so much destruction, and yet it is so always that we decide our way through our eternal existence, moment by moment. Let today be the day when you choose to make a different choice; to unbind yourself from ages of self-suppression.
The Wild Woman is our vibrance, our passion, our fire, our burning desire to express our highest truth about all else. So full is her presence that all inhibitions are blown out of the water; in her presence, the impulse to please/appease/avoid rocking the boat, hang back, make ourselves small, suppress our highest instincts and the voice of the Infinite roaring through us “in case it upsets anyone” are not even a question. How could we possibly put such nonsense first? She is fierce in the sense of burning integrity, she will stand for nothing but complete freedom from all illusion and the toxic games that support it, she will not be caged, she answers to no-one but the Infinite within, not even those who would have her bound to illusory ideas of “loyalty”. She knows that her true loyalty lies with the Infinite alone, and no greater service can be done by her than to live that with utmost authenticity, even if it leaves her standing alone in physicality (for a time, eventually others will come to stand near her, and it will all have been worth it).
The wildish nature that dwells within and that cannot be defined by any method that the linear mind of man so wishes to employ in relation to everything in its world will almost certainly be disapproved of by others, this is almost a given. The general population may not bother us (especially once the support of the rest of the Inner Family is established), but what if the disapproval comes from our loved ones, our family, or our more treasured and respected peers? It comes as a great surprise sometimes who cannot handle our fullness when we dare to give it the room to express. Can we bear to be pioneers of the resurrection of ancient ways, even if our Earthly parents flinch when they see what we have become? That is the real test, and one that many may simply not feel ready for yet, which brings us back to the role of the Nurturer.
The Wild Woman is the vital key to our soul-nature, the love affair with life – without her we wither. But do we have the strength and the courage to keep living her and keep her flame high rather than relegating her once again to the shadows of our psyche the very first moment she is challenged?
This is where the Inner Nurturer comes in – and why establishing the foundation of the four primary pieces is really essential before the others can be stable)- her role of creating a sanctuary of self-approval within is crucial to our ability to stand as ourselves in the face of adversity. If this has not been rooted deeply enough, the root of our being will quake and tremble if we find ourselves unmet, and we will slink back to a half-life, casting a shadow upon our own being (which we then tend to identity with), and the cycle continues.
It is not enough to resurrect the Wild Woman alone. Just as we have looked at the other Inner Family members as a unite, so too does she require the support and stable of the stable inner infracture of her whole Inner Family to give her the paradoxical solid ground on which to stand as she performs her function of sweeping away the ground beneath all of their feet moment by moment, that all can be reborn into newness every day, and the River of Life run vital and unhindered through our tingling veins.
Most especially, the Wild Womans needs the Nurturer, just as the Child does. The Nurturer creates the home to which she can return over and over, where she knows that she is treasured by her own Family, and that the mirrored world means nothing. She is the one who must be so rooted in self-approving love, acceptance and appreciation that nothing can shake her. She must dwell in unshakeable self-love, which she extends to all the Family, offering her wildish daughter/sister the foundation of a healthy home within which she is an outcast no more, but a fundamental contribution to wholesome living.
Additionally, the rest of the Inner Family gives her the stability to express in a way that considers the impact on the whole of life, not in a manner of second-guessing or leaving gaps through delaying spontaneous automatic action, but through seamlessly accessing the perspectives of all the others to see how life appears through their eyes. This enables, for example the expression of the Wild Woman in a way that honours the Inner Child of others, the boundaries set by the Warrior (both those of ourselves and those around us), the capacity of others to receive (as indicated by the discernment of the Sage), and so much more.
Where does this land with you today dear Sisters? Can you hear the Wild Woman’s calling? She is singing to you softly from every corner of your life, she wishes to come home and to have a place to call her own finally. Can you welcome her? 💖🔥