Gratitude is an essential component of successful manifestation. In this new era of cosmic evolution that we are living in, it is through the heart that our reality is created. It is a mystical law that gratitude is needed in order to increase anything in our lives.
Without gratitude, we block the flow of life’s benevolent blessings both to and from us. Gratitude as a state of being opens the heart and therefore the body to vast levels of receptivity while simultaneously broadcasting loving intent to our environment. This causes us to resonate the vibration of natural fullness of being. A grateful heart is necessary in order to be able to draw anything new towards us. If we wish to have more in our lives it is first necessary to be grateful for what we have, however far from our idealised version of things it seems. Gratitude opens the sluices of supply for abundance of every kind to pour in.
We can’t be grateful for what we have if we don’t realise what we have. One of the reasons many of us may not realise what we have is because we are still viewing life through the lens of past belief, despite what is right in front of us. This is called by the great Seer Almine, “seeing what is not, instead of what is”.
An example of this would be if we have experienced extraordinary hurt in relationships in the past, but now have very loving and supportive relationships around us. If any part of us is holding on to wounding from past experience, we would be unable to embrace the reality of now having loving and supportive relationships, despite the fact that they are actually there. It is as though there is a screen between us and our present lives, where the present life does not feel “real” to us, we are not able to be fully present in it. What’s happening here is that some aspects of us are living in the past, and often despite our best efforts, we cannot quite get them to rejoin us in our present reality. This phenomenon is known as soul loss.
This inability to directly access or be fully present in our current life is an incredibly painful situation to be in, and it is a remarkably common experience too. Fortunately though it is healable – though in order to be healed it needs to be fully understood for what it is. Soul loss is the result of trauma, which could be even a very mild trauma or something that may not register as obvious. For example, small children can register events that might seem pretty innocuous to adults as traumatic experience; a parent being emotionally unavailable when needed could be an example. Additionally, much of what could be considered traumatic is subjective, meaning that different people experience things in different ways and what impacts one person in one way might impact another completely differently. Both the impact of childhood trauma and the individual nature of traumatic response have been well documented scientifically, but this understanding has not yet been widely applied in the area of conventional treatment.
Aside from the scenario of having possibly experienced trauma in one’s personal life, we live in a highly toxic and trauma-inducing society by its very nature; widespread violence, hatred and bigotry are unnatural conditions fuelled by manipulative tactics and are traumatising to the psyche of humanity in general. It is theorised by many in the healing field that most people in the Western world are dealing with some degree of soul loss, however small, due to simply residing on the planet in these troubling times, and I would tend to agree with this position.
How soul loss happens is a very clever trick of evolution that has served as a protective mechanism to enable an individual to cope in the face of what to them is an unbearable experience (remembering that this is subjective, yet universal in the sense that the human spirit is by nature innocent). What happens is that at the point of trauma, a fragment of the soul – smaller or greater in size depending on the extent of the trauma – detaches itself from connection to the body and flees to one of several non-physical places for refuge. In some cases, several fragments can chip off and be scattered in various different locations. This happens so that we do not have to fully feel the impact of whatever has registered as a traumatic experience – the absence of feeling temporarily reduces the damage. Temporarily is a really key word here, because ultimately the damage done by having “lost” a piece of the soul is absolutely huge, but effectively, the temporary effect enables us to cope with the immediate experience more readily.
Ordinarily, a soul piece may come back by itself when it has been deemed that is it safe to do, but in many cases this part doesn’t happen. This could be because by virtue of the collective conditions that humanity currently resides in, a safe place is not necessarily ever fully established again. As a modern culture we have all but stopped valuing ritual, tradition, and community, and as such, there is no sanctuary to be found unless we specifically create it for ourselves.
In the event where a soul piece doesn’t return by itself and we don’t (or can’t) do the work to heal it, it is considered “stuck” in that its retrieval requires intervention. What we’re left with then is a gaping hole in our being – a “piece missing” is what it feels like – like some part of us is just not there, just not available presently. On a day to day basis, this part is absent from all experience and is unable to provide whatever its contribution to our wholeness might be, which depending on the size of the piece could be something huge (like our general happiness). Additionally, some part of our awareness remains in the past with the missing piece or pieces, precisely at the point/s that it or they were originally lost. The reason for this is another very clever survival mechanism! It’s because we naturally gravitate towards wholeness, and we know on some level that something has been left behind and that it’s crucial to our wellbeing to get it back! It’s impossible to forget a soul piece that is calling to be reintegrated.
To return to the beginning of the article and tie everything together – we now know that if soul loss has happened, some part of us remains stuck in the past. The separation of soul and body affects the body too, and body parts remain stuck in the past – which is often the cause of disease. Generally it is the organs that will get “left behind”. This phenomenon of “something left behind” translates into our daily experience where it can be guaranteed that we will unable to be fully present and embracing of what is right in front of us. The ability to be fully present and embrace “what is” is necessary in order to feel love and gratitude, and gratitude is necessary to anchor an open heart in the physical experience. An open heart is necessary to be able to manifest any new conditions in this new cosmic reality, so here we have come full circle to understanding that it may be soul loss that is preventing us from feeling to the depth that we want to.
Sometimes, simple understanding of what is really going on in this case and the creation of a safe and nurturing space for ourselves to heal is enough to call a missing soul piece back to join us in the physical. Try it – create for yourself a sacred ritual for welcoming home any aspects you want to rehabilitate. Do know that the integration process can take a little while, soul pieces that have been gone for a long time need to see that things have genuinely changed in order to be convinced to stay with the body. Usually what is needed to bring lost pieces home completely is to create the conditions that they need to thrive and which they maybe didn’t have originally, which could mean changing our environment or switching things up in other areas of life. At other times, additional support is needed, and then at others times we might simply need to be armed with more techniques to have confidence in our ability to perform self-healing.
I am so excited to share that I will shortly be joining my dear colleague Anita Lucia in teaching a revolutionary new process which I believe will empower and enable anyone to do their own soul retrieval. Watch this space for more information on this coming soon, or go to www.adventuresinboundlessness.com to register interest.
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